I need to get some balance into my life is a phrase that I hear sometimes. Indeed I've said or thought it myself!
The circumstances driving a person (or me) to say such a thing come in all sorts of shapes, sizes and intensities and the actions the person takes to find that balance (if they indeed do anything!) are equally varied.
I'm convinced that, like with a lot of things, we don't necessarily know what we mean and as a result our attempts to get to that place we say we want to get to end up creating other issues or disappointments.
For starters, I need to understand and act with the understanding that equilibrium is not a destination or achievement but an ongoing state of being.
Secondly, it should be a status that is attainable regardless of others. If our peace is determined by the cooperation of other people with our plans then we will always be disappointed or end up either disengaging or creating an individualistic dictatorship.
Lastly, it needs to be meaningful. An endless cycle of consistency may be stable but that doesn't mean it's worth anything.